Acknowledging There’s Someone in There: Seniors with Expressive Aphasia
My mom has suffered from expressive aphasia since a series of strokes that she’s had over the past 10 years. At first, the changes were minimal; she would occasionally have some trouble forming some words or responding to something that someone said to her. However, over time, these minor changes became something much more serious as she was rendered silent by the condition. I didn’t understand what she was going through at first; I thought that along with her speech, her cognitive skills were going as well. I guess you could say I thought that that when it came to my mother, the lights were off and there was nobody home. It certainly seemed that way for a while, until one day my mother, who had taken up painting, painted a photo of one of her grandchildren with a dog. One that he didn’t have, but had spoken to us about wanting; and suddenly I realized there really was someone in there who was aware of everything going on around her, with no way to express herself, and our family had been treating her like she no longer existed.
I immediately made changes in my communication style with my mother – I started treating her like I always had, even if she wasn’t able to answer back to me when I told her about my day or about the funny things that her young grandchildren had been up to, I knew she was in there listening. But the rest of the family didn’t seem to get it, even when my mom was present in the room, they acted like she wasn’t there; my siblings just couldn’t get it through their heads that my mom was still in there, even if she couldn’t communicate with us.
I had done extensive research on expressive aphasia, and I tried to explain to my family that my mom’s condition had affected nothing more than her ability to access language, and that by avoiding talking to her they were isolating her entirely when she was undoubtedly already feeling lost and alone. As my mother slowly learned to cope with her condition, and started to find other ways to communicate with us – the light bulb finally went off in the heads of the rest of my family, and it dawned on them, that my mom wasn’t gone; she was just trapped in a body without the language skills to make her presence known.
Sources:
1. Stroke Association
2. The Aphasia Institute
3. Orange Blossom Farm
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